Friday, April 4, 2008

Men date who they see, not who they say - Sexual health




Men say they want one thing, but date anotherness

Guys go for good looks, but women are pickier about their partners

Science is confirming what most women know: When given the choice for a mate, men go for good looks.

And guys won??�t be surprised to learn that women are much choosier about partners than they are.

Just because group say they??�re looking for a particular set of characteristics in a mate, someone like themselves, doesn??�t mean that is what they??�ll end up choosing, Peter M. Todd, of the cognitive science program at Indiana University, Bloomington, said in a telephone interview.

Researchers led by Todd report in Tuesday??�s edition of Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences that their meditate found humans were similar to most otherness mammals, following Darwin??�s principle of choosy females and competitive males, even if humans say something difference.

Their meditate involved 26 men and 20 women in Munich, Germany.

Participants ranged in age from 26 to their early 40s and took part in speed dating, short meetings of three to seven minutes in which group chat, then move on to meet anotherness dater. Afterward, participants check off the group they??�d like to meet again, and dates can be arranged between pairs who select one anotherness.

Speed dating let researchers look at a lot of mate choices in a short time, Todd said.

All about looks
In the meditate , participants were asked before the session to fill out a questionnaire about what they were looking for in a mate, listing such categories as wealth and status, family commitment, physical appearance, healthiness and attractiveness.

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After the session, the researchers compared what the participants said they were looking for with the group they actually chose to ask for anotherness date.

Men??�s choices did not reflect their stated preferences, the researchers concluded. Instead, men appeared to base their decisions mostly on the women??�s physical attractiveness.

The men also appeared to be much less choosy. Men tended to select nearly every woman above a certain minimum attractiveness threshold, Todd said.

Women??�s actual choices, like men??�s, did not reflect their stated preferences, but they made more discriminating choices, the researchers found.

The scientists said women were aware of the importance of their own attractiveness to men, and adjusted their expectations to select the more desirable guys.

Women made offers to men who had overall qualities that were on a par with the women??�s self-rated attractiveness. They didn??�t greatly overshoot their attractiveness, Todd said, because part of the goal for women is to choose men who would stay with them

But, he added, they didn??�t go lower. They knew what they could get and aimed for that level.

So, it turns out, the women??�s attractiveness influenced the choices of the men and the women.

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